Comparing Yourself to Others – It’s a game we often play, even if we don’t mean to. The game where you look through Instagram and see everything you don’t have. Great content. That outfit. This bag. Amazing trips. Killer girl squad. The campaign you really wanted. An event you didn’t get invited to. And the more you scroll through, the more the green-eyed monster starts to rear its ugly head. You’re jealous. You click your phone off in disgust and spend the rest of your day consumed with jealousy and inferiority.
Trust me, I’ve been there. I’ve had days where I don’t even want to get out of bed. When comparing yourself to others, you think that you’re nothing. You suck, you’re a bad blogger, you should just quit, you’ll never be accepted and never be good enough.
I was scrolling through Instagram this week, began comparing myself to others, didn’t get invited to a certain blogger event and something in me snapped. I finally had enough. I am by no means a big, successful blogger but I consider myself lucky and blessed. I make enough to do this full-time and I have had some amazing experiences. Two years ago when I quit my full-time job with the state I never imagined by life would be like this and I’m so thankful.
I’ve worked hard for this. Bloggers work longer hours, have to hustle 10x harder, and handle rejection and criticism. I have to understand I may not be accepted by my fellow bloggers because I’m different. It’s hard but I have to be okay with the fact that not everyone wants to be my friend and hangout with me. I have to make sure my feelings don’t get hurt when I see people hanging out without me. I understand that I may walk into an event and not fit in the normal clique’s. But I’m beginning to see that I’m perfectly fine with that.
My self-worth isn’t determined by if I have the latest designer bag or 100K Instagram followers. My self-worth is determined by if I’m happy, is this life fulfilling me, do I feel creative and inspired. I want to create killer content and show you (my beloved readers) that some bloggers are real. I’m not perfect all the time. I’m usually a hot mess, prefer staying in and watching Netflix/hockey. The girl who is obsessed with her dog and drinks too much coffee.
I don’t want to be the blogger you’re intimidated by and afraid to come say hi to. Come and talk to me, introduce yourself, share your passions and goals with me. Don’t look at my Instastories and Blog and feel jealous or inferior. Come join me in a coffee shop to talk about life.
So that’s why I’m done comparing myself to others. Who willingly wants to feel this way? I sure don’t. Be happy for a friend when they get a campaign that you didn’t. Walk into an event, not know anyone and make a new friend. Don’t feel left out when you see some blogger friends hanging out. All this just makes me want to hustle and work even harder! I want to constantly grow and improve as a person and blogger. And I can’t do that when jealousy and comparison is holding me back.
So if you’ve read this far, what I’m try to say is stop it. And I know this is easier said than done. But we should celebrate each others successes and victories! If you see a friend got an awesome campaign, like and comment their photo! If you love following someone on Instagram who is killing it, send them a message and let them know! Support and uplift you fellow girl bosses instead of sulking in the shadows!